There is no need to embark on yet another self-improvement regime. Those strategies often reinforce the idea that there is something inherently wrong with us, which must be fixed in order for us to be happy or even worthy of participating in life. 

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When we approach ourselves with a scalpel, ready to dissect the ”bad parts” or sew on some new “better ones” we are participating in the same kind of tyranny toward ourselves that we are so desperate to be rid of. 

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We have all been shaped by and adapted to the values we were raised with, including the often hidden yet internalized demands and mixed messages from our culture that have pretty strong opinions about just about everything. The result is that we are put at odds with our own truth, and try to meet these expectations that are not only not serving our authentic self, but often oppressing it severely. 

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 Many people feel cut off from who they are, causing a deep feeling of restlessness, loneliness, confusion, fear, anxiety, and depression.  Compulsive behaviors, substance abuse, eating disorders and a variety of other addictions may also occur as a response to this loss, and in an attempt to find solace. These actions may be suspended, but do not fully heal with a white-knuckled disciplinary slap. They are the symptoms of a deep un-ease, which might be better understood as a way we have learned to cope with an unbearable burden.

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 You really do know what is best for you.  I see my role as facilitator, inspirer and guide in the process of freeing the thoughts, feelings and behaviors that have occluded basic trust in your own reliable mind.